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This is something I deal with a lot and I feel like addressing it right now. So I can say it once and never have to say it again. I’m not someone who immediately wants a relationship. I’m not the girl who after two months is starting to think about wedding bells. I’m not the girl who needs to be defined after two weeks of knowing you. I’m not her. I am me. I take my time. I like to keep whatever is going with me and my s.o private. I’ll do very little chit-chat and play the rest close to my chest. Why? Because I believe that a relationship is between two people. Whether it be your friend from second grade or your mother. It is between two people. It is not for everyone. My business with my s.o is my business. How it works for me is HOW IT WORKS FOR ME. So please stop thinking that every girl is ready to talk marriage after nine months, I can’t even keep a hairstyle that long. How can I realistically expect to even think about marriage that fast… I don’t move quick. I TAKE MY TIME. I know of people who, after two months, are in love. Couldn’t be me. I’m patient in getting to know someone. I don’t rush it. People are always changing and I give my s.o room to grow. I take our understanding of being with each other, as that. I’m not interested in all these titles and make-belief standards that follow. It’s really hard for people to understand that because I am of the minority. I am that rare girl who is literally attracted to the bond I have with a person over the titles. I believe that if you strip away the expectations and concerns others may have and just get to know a person you will be surprised. I know that isn’t for everyone. Some people like to move things along and be dating after a month. That’s okay. I won’t question it. So don’t question me. I don’t even know how titles bring you closer to a person, but that’s a thought for another day. It’s like in high school when a relationship didn’t mean shit if it wasn’t “Facebook official”. That had to be the most idiotic thing I had ever heard. And now, we find ourselves in a situation where girls feel like a s.o isn’t really in to them if they aren’t on their social media. I couldn’t care less. That’s validation for the insecure. If I’m comfortable in our bond and understanding than who knows doesn’t really affect me. SO AGAIN, please stop asking me about who I am with and what are we… WE ARE WHAT WE ARE. (myob) I don’t care about people’s relationships because it has ABSOLUTELY nothing to do with how my day goes. It doesn’t affect how I wake up, eat or shit. That’s how I live, I live by caring about what affects me on a personal level. If who I am dealing with doesn’t affect you then why do you care?