Black in classic

It’s safe to say that everyone in the world has some form of parental issues. Mommy and Daddy issues. Every situation is different and unique to the people involved. However, what we fail to realize is that everyone we come in contact with are battling their own parental issues and it will manifest in how they treat the people they come in contact with. Many times we pretend to be over our situation, but it just comes out in other ways. It shows up physically and mentally. To begin this conversation, I first say that EVERYONE needs to find a therapist. I’ll reiterate this point a lot because therapist are needed in this crazy world. They help us unpack our feelings and carry on with the tools we need to be a better person. Next, forgive your mother, father, or both. I think we tend to forget that they are human too. They are figuring out it all out, just as we are. No one has the answers, so no one can do anything perfectly. Parents are going to fail because it’s their first time giving this a try. We have to acknowledge that. Does it excuse all behaviors? No, because there is a general principle of right and wrong. HOWEVER, our parents come with their own baggage and struggles that have shaped them. Sometimes what we endure with them is just an over pour of what they went through. Like I mentioned, our traumas and life experiences will come out in how we treat people and interact with them. It’s difficult to blame a person for being human with flaws. I am human and flawed. The key to creating a better relationship with your parents is to understand that and forgive them. Forgive them. You may think that this forgiveness means you want them in your life and it doesn’t. In my opinion, forgiveness is saying I understand, here’s my compassion, but I will move on. I cannot carry your baggage that poured into me which created even more baggage. I’m leaving that right here. It’s only a cycle, if you let it be. As cliché as it sounds, break the cycle. Stop holding in all that anger towards a situation that does NOTHING for you. Also, whenever you are confronted about something please stop bringing your parents into the mix. We are all ADULTS!