Black in classic

I will not be a forever girlfriend. I do believe that as women we must stand firm in our yes’s and our no’s when it comes to relationships. Many times we sway, bend, and settle for men. This is just at a sacrifice of our own happiness. I recognize that in order for me to be happy, there is no way that I could be a forever girlfriend. Love is awesome, don’t get me wrong. But I can love you, and respect myself even more. I can’t settle for something that I KNOW I do not want. Settling is stifling and debilitating. Now, I feel as though there should be a disclaimer, but I won’t because “Sorry, Not Sorry.” Women tend to deal with WAY MORE when it comes to relationships because that’s just what we’re “supposed to do”. That won’t work for me. I’ve never been the type of woman that would settle for things that made me uncomfortable. I am not built that way. A forever girlfriend is an excuse for a man who is scared and has mental baggage the size of an elephant. That is something that I REFUSE to tackle for a lifetime. I will not be your “ride or die” because you don’t want to deal with your mommy issues. Sorry, Not Sorry. I ask for more. That’s important to remember: Ask for More. Here’s the different between me and them, I won’t fall for your potential, I won’t pretend that this will be more than what it is and I won’t allow myself to play wife to a man treating me less than. Marriage is not the end all to be all, BUT it is a concrete ending. This is US, forever. Marriage is a business partnership. FOR ME and TO ME, it means against all odds we have decided to live, grow, and love together & forever. If you can’t get right, get left. Now, please don’t mistake this and think that I am speaking for all women. I could never, I can only speak for myself. That is not a life I want to lead. That is why I really never say I’m in a relationship unless I feel comfortable enough to do so. Some women are so hard pressed to show the world that a man wants them, that they will push all those voices deep down. I won’t parade a man around just to say I have a man. But, that may be another topic for another day. A forever girlfriend is a title I will not hold. A position I will not play. That’s just a stipulation in my terms and conditions when dealing with me… If you cannot agree to them then there is nothing to discuss. I want more and I ask for more.