Black in classic

Disclaimer: This post is intended to ruffle some feathers. The full intention of this post is challenging women to think about what they are settling for… Let’s Begin.

That man does not love you. I know you just read that and rolled your eyes and that’s okay. I understand why. You are seeking something in that man that he can never fill. The void of love you feel will not come from him. Now, I could break down a million reason as to why I know that man doesn’t love you, but are you aware of every single reason. At some point you lost it or maybe you never had it, but the love of self is so much more important than having the attention of a man. You are doing any and everything to get it. How does that feel? Do you feel complete? Women struggle with self-love because society as condition us to believe love comes from a man and a relationship. That is SO FAR from the truth. This truth will sting a little bit because in the back of your mind you know all of this. I’m not saying that a relationship isn’t a beautiful thing. It definitely is. The ugly part of this is that you are going out of your way to keep a man. That’s not okay. The more you love yourself, the less you are willing to tolerate. The higher the bar becomes for dealing with a woman of your caliber. Men have this innate sense to detect insecure women. They prey on weak women. Weak women allow ridiculous shenanigans. I know you are better than that. You deserve better than that. A man doesn’t define your value. Women who seek validation in men can’t understand why some women choose to be single. That’s a choice that is made because we are sure of who we are. Strong women don’t bend over backwards to please a man that can’t even keep his word. The sweet nothings he promises you in your ear late at night are just that, NOTHING. They are empty promises to keep you hopeful. Strong women understand that a man should do for you without having to be asked. This is something that really grinds me gears, a man shouldn’t see you in a compromising position and not step in to help. If a MAN can sit and watch you live in an uncomfortable environment or poor environment… Sis that is not your man. But I digress… Recognize that who you are. Why allow a man to come into your space and just take from you? What is he adding? I can only speak for myself but it’s a little pathetic that you’re parading around this man who is trash. He’s pure trash. I don’t want to seem like I’m bashing anyone. I just want better for women. I observe so much and it is mind-blowing. Stop carrying that dead weight around. Pour into yourself and watch how the world gives back to you. That man is not worth it. You are worth it. Stop dealing with nonsense to feel like you’ve won a prize.