Black in classic

What’s your in between? For me, there is none. I cannot straddle the fence. It’s very black and white. In relationships or friendships there is no middle area with mixed messages. People tend to take my kindness for weakness, or even being naïve, but that is furthest from the truth. In most of my relationships, no matter the capacity, I am very cut and dry. I don’t believe in beating around the bush and avoiding the obvious. I think that goes along with my stance on “no one is going to tap dance on my feelings”. It can come across extremely harsh and I understand that. However, many people need to realize that allowing yourself to stand in the grey area is detrimental to you. Don’t allow anyone to be in your life who will not show and prove that they want to be there. Like Fantasia said, free yourself. As understanding and forgiving as I am, I do not allow for people to deceive me. I will call a spade a spade. I cannot bend, fold or be put in a compromising position for any relationship. Now that leads me to leaving people where they are. I will not go any further with the foolery. If I notice that’s the type of energy you have, I will leave you there. I’m not pretending that you care for me, I’m not pretending our relationship is what it once was, I am not pretending. That’s the bottom line. There is no in between. I am not working towards figuring anything out ANYTHING,  if I know your actions and words aren’t matching.  I will repeat myself, I am not a fan of mixed messages. I firmly believe in speaking your truth and standing in it. Leave that grey area for children. As I’ve gotten older the ability to have discernment has grown. I do not want fake people around me. I do not manipulative people around me. I am a good judge of character. In my humble opinion, one cannot have discernment if they are dealing with people while straddling the fence. You know when someone is good for you and when they are not. Once you have decided, keep them there. All that back and forth is playing with my emotions and that is not allowed. I do not have the time. Play with someone else.