Black in classic

Here’s the thing about mistakes… you don’t have to be the one to make them too learn from them. A lot of people question why I can speak on certain topics when I haven’t been through it and the answer is, I seen it before. You may say that seeing it and experiencing it is completely different and I would agree. Life is so wonderful because we get to interact with so many different people daily and a wise person would learn something from each interaction. I’ve never been in love, but that doesn’t mean I cannot speak on love. I have seen enough. I like to believe that our daily interactions with people are our life manual or rule book. It is so important to pay attention and understand. We can learn what to do and not do if we pay attention to other’s mistakes. Whenever someone asks me for advice, I always actively listen and then tell them what I would do FROM MY OWN PERSONAL PERSPECTIVE AND EXPERIENCE. This allows me to recall this at a later point in life. Like for instance, let’s just say a friend was ignoring all the signs that their partner was cheating on them and being disrespectful. If we pay attention and understand this situation, we would know how to navigate should it happen to us. As we grow and change, I think it is so important to realize that you saw certain people go through things, so you don’t have to. In high school, I saw how pointless my friend’s relationships were. It was nothing more than a distraction. I learned early on that I didn’t want to be bothered with pregnancy scares, constant aggravation, and unnecessary drama. I was not interested. I saw what they went through and decided that it wasn’t for me. Again, I paid attention and gained an understanding. I watched the adults in my life. I understood certain things and realized what did and did not work. Life is about understanding and choosing to do better. In my opinion, you saw how bad it was for someone else so why would you repeat it. Mistakes become cycles that then can turn into generational cycles that are so HARD to break. Change how you relate to the interactions that you have. Learn from each other’s mistakes so you don’t get caught in the same web. If your mother is constantly chasing a man for love and putting a man first in her life; CHOOSE to do something different. Do not follow in those same exact mistakes. We are all aware of what is right or wrong. Decide to do what is right.

When you are navigating through life, remember to add all meaningful interactions to your internal life manual. It will help you avoid unnecessary situations.