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Show up as that girl and never anything less. “How can I be confident?” sometimes seems to be a really complex question, but the answer is really simple. Show up as that girl and never anything less. The more we recognize our value and the love we have for ourselves; the higher our self-esteem will rise. I was always confident in myself because I knew there was no other better than me. I just love me way too much. That doesn’t mean that I think I am better than anyone else; it just means that I am the best version of myself. The biggest problem that women face is not seeing their value outside of how it relates to a man. The woman that I am can never be defined by a man. It just simply could never. I know who I am and I wake up every single day being that woman.

To gain confidence in yourself, it takes you doing something so bizarre. You have to look into the mirror and see the best version of yourself. Look past all your insecurities like they don’t exist. Even at your lowest. When I look at myself in the mirror, I see a smart, beautiful and strong woman. Every day I show up as her. I also EXPECT and DEMAND that EVERYONE treats me as such. No one can treat me less than because I will not allow it. “How can I be confident?” Stop allowing people to make you feel less than. Anyone that treats you less than how you value yourself should be removed from your life with the quickness. Confidence comes from having the courage to demand more and NEVER fold. There are times when I have caught people treating me less than and I would quickly say to myself, “They must not know who I am”. It is because I love myself WAY TOO MUCH to allow that kind of behavior. BECAUSE, realistically, imagine someone with self-love, high self-esteem and confidence allowing some one to play with them. It just wouldn’t make sense. That kind of nonsense gets dismissed, ladies.

A man will not make those insecurities go away because those are your personal issues. To be more confident, you need to be completely aware who you are as an individual. Confidence comes from within. Be that confident and fearless woman. No one can help you do that, but YOU! Seeking outside validation will only ruin you. My value comes from knowing that I am baddest thing on this planet and I need no one to agree. I am enough for myself. If I recognize that in myself then I demand that every single person I interact with does as well.