Black in classic

Our dating scene is screwed. I’ve come to realize that we are in an era where people take living in a fantasy world much more serious than real life itself. Women are so concerned with having a boyfriend to take pictures with. Men want to have the next bad b*. It is tragic, to say the least. I can only speak from my experiences, but I am noticing that so many people are concerned with how their relationship or lack thereof compares and is perceived on social media. So many couples are hashtag goals and for no other reason than what a picture looks like. Women AND men are to blame! Men spend time on social media looking at these gorgeous women who do not represent any normalcy.  Women spend time on social media looking at pictures of other women who are seemingly happy in love, but in all honest everything that glitter isn’t gold. I think most of us can see that there is something wrong, but it’s hard to pinpoint it. Especially, when you are a part of the problem. I would include myself in this, but only up until this point. I try not to be pessimistic, but I only see this getting worse before it gets better. I’m not sure about you, but I remember when I was in high school and even middle school a relationship was not “real” if it wasn’t Facebook official. And, now here we are. Everything means nothing if we cannot share it on social media. Our relationships aren’t real if we don’t get the proverbial emoji over the face picture. How will anyone know that I am happily in love UNLESS I post this picture? Like I said, our dating scene is screwed. We are all so conditioned to believe that true validation lies in how many likes we can get. Most of us won’t ever be happy in love because we aren’t seeking real companionship more than we are looking to impress someone online. If this weren’t so true then so many people wouldn’t be so pressed to share their partner. There wouldn’t be a huge emphasis on whether or not your partner posts you. One day, we will be able to let our obsession go and live life. Live in the present. Live in the real world.