Black in classic

When a relationship ends, who is at fault? I was speaking with a friend of mine, who is a man, and he said that it is always the man’s fault whenever a relationship ends. I obviously did not agree. I believe that to some degree each person is an equal participant in why a relationship did not work. My friend argued with me that a man is at fault because every woman wants a man and it is up to him to steer the ship and have an idea of where to go. That made absolutely no sense and every point that he brought up made no sense. It made no sense to me because it wasn’t backed up with any proof of experience. In my humble opinion, a man cannot be 100% at fault because they cannot control how the woman feels. That is an unknown variable. A man can do everything right BUT if she is not into him then it won’t work out. That has nothing to do with the man’s manliness. It takes two to tango. As adults, we must be able to hold each other accountable. In any relationship, each party must accept that they contributed to the demise of the relationship. It is the mature thing to do. To think that a man is solely responsible for the outcome of the relationship is some FRAGILE macho masculinity bullshit. Women toy with men all the time and that is not a slight towards the man. The game will get us all. For instance, let’s say a woman got into a situation with a man based off sheer peer pressure from her friends. She wasn’t into the man at all but her friends told her it would be a good idea to test the waters and date outside her comfort zone. The woman did it but as time went on, she realized that she just couldn’t convince herself that this was actually worth it. The man was an amazing guy and anyone woman would be lucky to have him BUT HE JUST WASN’T MEANT FOR HER! This is not 100% the man’s fault. He did exactly what he was supposed to do; however, he just didn’t know that she never intended to actually take him seriously. In that situation, the man is at fault for not paying attention and being attentive. Most times the signs are all in our face when someone does not want us. The woman is at fault for toying with someone they did not like. Also, a touch childish for listening to her friends when she knew it wasn’t for her. But I digress. Accountability is a two way street. In relationships, both partners are at fault.